100 Dates….#89….The High Life..
3rd Date with Mr, 35, No Kids, Sales Professional
Main Event & Dinner at Bravo
After our proper date, he asked to see me again rather quickly. I am still entertaining another gentleman so I have to make sure I make time for them both. I am open about my dating life so there are no surprises, and my date is still on Tinder, so there is a possibility I am not the only woman on his radar right now.
He picked me up, arriving on time to the minute again, (his nickname might just be Mr. Punctual) dressed in a relaxed dad style.He’s a handsome guy with no hipster in him, so I can’t quite tell if he’s intentionally dressing this relaxed or if it’s his actual style. We decided on Main Event, I was excited to show him the place, especially the high rope course that my daughters were really pumped about the last time we came. So the rope course…… I was perfectly fine until I got to the top of the course, where I began to have a mild freak out, not sure if it was the fear of heights that I didn’t know I had, or the nerves of trying something new. He chuckled and reassured me gently. Tossing in some sarcasm that made me laugh. We were down in no time, then he proceeded to whoop my tail in everything but shuffleboard, after he taught me how to play.
PLOT TWIST! I wasn’t sure how to respond at first when we ran into my director, as we headed up to the bowling area. My director was with his wife and kids, his wife (I adore) smiled brightly and gave me a hug, while the men just looked at each other and did the man nod. This wouldn’t have been such a huge deal except, I don’t date people I work with, and my date doesn’t either. Yep, we work for the same company. We are both recognizable folks with tenure at the company, so my boss knew who he was right away. My date and I have decided to not go public until we were both 100% since the culture we work in is filled with gossip, like most companies.
After we were gamed out, we went around the corner to Bravo for a bite. The picky eater in him came out as he talked about how he didn’t like vegetables (minus a few) or fruit, and prided himself as more of a meat and potatoes man that can’t cook. I can honestly say this concerns me, because I don’t eat a lot of meat, and love fruits and vegetables and love to cook. We both can stand to lose a few lbs and be more healthy, so I lingered on that thought for a bit. We talked about how I am the first black woman he’s dated, race in general, religion, his place / stance as a man dating a woman with children and what he was looking for in a relationship. He had just broken up with his gf in May, which isn’t long ago. Part of me wondered if I was a rebound for him. I spent a significantly longer time alone, and was fine with it, I wonder how that’ll play out in what we have going on.
I asked a few repetitive questions, after not getting the response I was looking for which made him get a little snippy, “I already answered that, I don’t know what else you want me to say about it.” I was surprised at his tone, but wasn’t going to let up on asking him about his intent. He said blatantly he wasn’t looking to get married soon, or move too fast in a relationship. He said go with the flow, which I despise, but later clarified that he is not wanting to date forever, but isn’t going to waste my time.
After dinner he drove me back home, I maintained conversation but was in my head more than I wanted to be. I enjoyed myself, however, couldn’t ignore how different we seemed to be. I can tell by the 3rd date if I should keep moving forward or jump ship, I am not jumping ship…..I’ve never dated anyone like him. I’d like to see him again, but I need to be a little more cautious. I don’t want to waste his time or mine either.
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